When I say these two words — MEN and COMMITMENT — what comes to mind? Men are commitment phoebes? Men are afraid of marriage? Men just want the milk without buying the cow? Anything like this pop into your brain? A lot of women — especially women who are dating over 40 — believe that men are far more interested in getting regular sex than they are in being in a committed relationship. It's like some truth we've been telling ourselves for decades. (I've heard that nasty cow comment since I was very young. You too?) We were raised to believe that Read More

Men's sexual arousal is usually easy whereas women's sexual arousal and orgasm are not automatic so unsurprisingly sex tends to focus on male sexual arousal. A man's orgasm (since it is usually co-incident with ejaculation) is critical to reproduction and so it makes sense that men are motivated by eroticism and able to reach orgasm easily. Female orgasm, on the other hand, is not required More → The post Women have a lower sex drive appeared first on Ways Women Orgasm. Read More

Natalie, a woman in her late twenties, had a close relationship with her mother who was a doctor. I approached Natalie hoping that a mother with a medical background might be more likely than others to have discussed her sexual experiences with a daughter. When young women have difficulty reaching orgasm during sex, it can be difficult for them to find answers. Natalie was relieved and grateful More → The post Sex advice for women is often misleading appeared first on Ways Women Orgasm. Read More

When I was seeing Bruce, a sexual psychologist, Peter also went along for one session by himself. It was a rare opportunity for two men to compare notes on techniques for female sexual arousal. Peter told Bruce how he had masturbated a woman on a transatlantic flight. He had told her about some sexual fantasy scenarios while stimulating her clitoris. Apparently, Bruce was very impressed with More → The post Men are fascinated by sex appeared first on Ways Women Orgasm. Read More

When a man is stimulated sexually by a partner he finds it difficult to avoid becoming aroused. Similarly, if a woman's response to penile thrusting (or any other physical stimulation technique) was automatic then women would presumably be unable to avoid becoming aroused whatever their conscious desires. So in the movie ‘Swordfish' (2001) Hugh Jackman hacks into the US Department of Defence, while threatened at gun point and More → The post Interpreting experiences of female orgasm appeared first on Ways Women Orgasm. Read More