Men and women live in different worlds when it comes to attitudes to eroticism. I suggested that most women today know how to pleasure a man but a British sex expert (male) disagreed: “They haven't a clue, and even if they knew, most wouldn't do it.” A joke illustrates the point: “What is the difference between a job and a wife?” Answer “After ten years a job More → The post Eroticism appeared first on Ways Women Orgasm. Read More

Foreplay has evolved as a means of compensating women for the lack of clitoral stimulation during intercourse. The concept behind foreplay techniques (including clitoral stimulation) is that a man should be able to arouse a woman sufficiently to enable him to continue stimulating her to orgasm through thrusting alone. One problem with foreplay is that clitoral stimulation needs to continue to the point of orgasm. (Imagine if More → The post Why foreplay techniques don't always work as we think they should appeared first on Ways Women Orgasm. Read More

As long ago as the 1950s the clitoris, and not the vagina, was acknowledged to be the origin of female orgasm. So that by the 1960s when Masters and Johnson explained female orgasm from intercourse alone, it was in terms of women finding positions and techniques for sexual intercourse that maximise the indirect clitoral stimulation (caused by the penis thrusting into the vagina). As sex therapist More → The post Clitoral stimulation is not everything appeared first on Ways Women Orgasm. Read More

Prostitutes are more experienced than most women. Yet even they admit that they do not orgasm with clients.[i] A woman who claims to orgasm with a lover is either interpreting orgasm in emotional terms or she is using orgasm as a reward for her lover's commitment to the relationship. Heterosexual men have difficulty identifying with… More → The post Women assume they should orgasm with a lover appeared first on Ways Women Orgasm. Read More

Carolyn, a relationship counsellor in her fifties, told me she thought it unwise to positively encourage female masturbation. She did not give her reasons. “Many women think of masturbation as unnatural and disgusting and a complete waste of time, and don't understand why anybody does it and are unsympathetic to the view that people might continue to do it even though they have sexual partners. The majority More → The post Female masturbation is relatively uncommon appeared first on Ways Women Orgasm. Read More