Due to the nature of my work and in particular my spidey senses and sniffer dog nose for shadiness and assholery, I can pick up on very subtle early warning signs that someone else may construe as me being ‘negative' or even ‘too sensitive'. For example, a few months back, I met up with a business acquaintance and when parting and discussing another meeting, they quipped that I'd better not be giving them any of that “sh*t” and pointed to my herbal tea. I felt slightly disconcerted. It niggled because it felt over the line. Now some people might think Read More

The general belief is that you learn a lot about someone by knowing their relationship history. Find out the details about his marriages and romances that didn't work out, and you'll get a good idea of whether he's relationship-worthy, right? When we're dating after 40, the men we're meeting have decades of this history. They can (and do) tell stories for hours! But here is my opinion: The stories are meaningless. I've been married to my wonderful husband for about eight years and we have spent a total of maybe three hours talking about his past marriages. And that's just the way Read More

Penny intended to feel on top of the world but ended up getting in her own way. She aced it when she'd showcased her work to respected people within her industry but enjoyed that feeling for all of a hot minute because she ended up ‘celebrating' with Mr Miserable, her sometimes charming Mr Unavailable who from the moment that he knew he'd won her over, he started up with the sniping, criticism and other such passive aggression before his pants had hit the floor. Penny's achievements were quickly forgotten and barely acknowledged. Sonya raves about her boyfriend who for the first Read More

This is Nancy, Bobbi's assistant and Grownup Girls' Night Out producer. I'm guest-blogging today while Bobbi is taking well-deserved vacation. We had an amazing response to last week's post “A Man-Fan's Fiercely Honest Story of Dating after 50.” In the article, “LM” described his experience dating as a man in his 50s; and they were not positive at all. (And btw, LM dates women who are generally within a few years of his age.) So many women wrote to say that they saw parts of themselves in the women “LM” was describing. Some copped to being a bit of the Wow Me Read More

OK, Ladies, you want the honest, real, unvarnished truth about what a commitment minded, nice, cute, professional, divorced 54 year old man really wants from you? Are you ready for the truth? Can you handle the truth? Of course you can. You are grownup and you understand how important it is to be empathetic. You also know that really understanding men is a key to finally writing your own grownup love story. LM is a man-fan of mine. Yes, Date Like a Grownup has man-fans! They are mostly the male counterpart of you. Nice, successful, decent people who find themselves single Read More