Don’t conflate common interests with character and shared core values
It's not the biggest leap in the universe to think that because you've met somebody who shares similar interests to you that you also share similar values, but in practice, it's an enormous leap that ignores the fact that a person could have a fundamentally different character and set of desires to you while still working in the same field, or enjoying the same shows, or enjoying the same hobbies and interests.
The leap in thinking comes from an underlying belief that you having these particular interests is linked to your values but let's think about this for a moment:
Let's imagine Read More
4 Steps For Fighting Divorce Rape
This article assumes that you face a breakup, see signs of a breakup in the future, or have realized that you wish to break up with a girl who has the opportunity to legally pursue asset settlements, child support, or child custody processes against you.
Every situation is different, of course, and requires different tactics. Different jurisdictions, family structures, financial circumstances and personal preferences lead to different issues and different outcomes. The point of this article is not to detail specific tactics to use but to set the tone and mentally prepare for what may be a coming battle.
Just to make Read More
J.M. Coetzee: Yet Another Nobel Prize Winning Hypocrite
In 1948, the Boer government of South Africa enacted a policy called Apartheid. The main purpose of this policy was to segregate the population of South Africa along racial lines—keeping the blacks, coloureds, Indians, and whites separated from one another. As with any racially influenced debate, opinions on the merit and successes of Apartheid (which ended under intense global pressure in 1994) are sharply divided.
One side of the debate typically argues that the segregation of blacks by the white Boer was a crime against the very decency of humanity, and that the treatment of black people by the Apartheid regime Read More
Black Or African-American?
Though I stopped watching the news quite some time ago I'm still able to stay up to date on the day's current events through friends, acquaintances, updates on my phone, et al. This principle held true when fellow columnist Blair Naso recently made me aware of some criticism CNN has taken of late for referring to French hostage taker, Amedi Coulibaly, as “African American.”
Coulibaly
Some say he should have been referred to as black, some say he should have been referred to as African-French, and some say it doesn't matter. I didn't dig too deep into this story but it definitely Read More
Review: Mona Wave
The LELO Mona Wave feels like being fingered by someone who is absent-mindedly planning out the toppings on the pizza they're going to order after I finally fucking come.
I know that isn't what you want me to say. You want me to say that the Mona Wave is like being fingered by the devil, or that it's the sexual equivalent of getting inducted into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame. It is not, and my feelings are not that extreme. But the Mona Wave does make me fucking crazy most of the time.
I don't blame you, internet. I have Read More
